5 Ways to Practice Body Positivity

Body Positivity, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

The body positivity movement has been picking up steam lately. What is the Body Positivity Movement? According to Wikipedia the body positivity movement is “acceptance and appreciation of all human body types. It is a social movement rooted in the belief that all human beings should have a positive body image, and be accepting of their own bodies as well as the bodies of others. The movement sets forth the notion that beauty is a construct of society, and poses that this construct should not infringe upon one’s ability to feel confidence or self-worth.”

Now this is something I can get behind. I have gone from hating my body to loving my body to hating my body to accepting my body. This is the body I have and I know it will never look like the “ideal body” no matter how hard I try. I learned this the hard way when I was running myself ragged trying to achieve that body only 3 years ago. Now I realize it’s perfectly fine to have some fluff and stuff just like Winnie the Pooh.

5 Ways to practice body positivity

1) Focus on the things you do like about your body

2) Stop purchasing magazines and following people on social media that make you feel bad about your body

3) Do things that make you and your body feel good

4) Buy clothes that fit and make you feel good about yourself

5) Don’t shame/judge other women for their bodies

This can be difficult because we are inundated with unrealistic body images. The female body comes in all shapes and sizes. You can be healthy and still be curvy. Also you can be skinny and unhealthy. Body size isn’t necessarily an indicator of health. Take care of your body and embrace all it’s imperfections.

Body shame has no place in our world. A woman should never feel like she isn’t “enough”. Shed yourself of the thoughts, people, and environments that make you feel less than. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. Release the expectation of a “perfect body” and love your body for what it can do. Hell my body carried four babies. That to me is absolutely miraculous.

I would love to support you in loving your body. Join me in The Inspired Women Community. If you want to know what I don’t like about the body positivity movement listen to Episode 126 of The Inspired Women Podcast. Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUITFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

How to Heal From Emotional Hurt

How to Heal From Emotional Hurt, Megan Hall, Life coach, Motivational Speaker

We all experience hurts in our life times. Some hurts are physical and some hurts are emotional. The physical ones are a little easier to heal. We see a professional, they treat us, and if we play our cards right ta da they heal us. Emotional hurt is a little harder to heal. It’s often an invisible wound that we don’t always realize is there.

Many times other people can cause this emotional hurt. People who may not apologize or take ownership of their actions. People who may never give you the opportunity for closure. Even if someone was the cause of our emotional hurt it’s not up to them to heal it. Their apology or ownership of their actions may help but it’s not necessary. Don’t let their hurt effect your life for the rest of your life.

How to heal from emotional hurt

1) Identify the hurt and where it’s coming from

2) Feel and express how you are feeling. This can be to the person who hurt you if possible, a close friend or even a therapist (especially if this is a deep hurt).

3) Decide what steps you need to take to move forward. A therapist can also help with this piece as well. 

4) Create space between you and the person who caused this hurt if they continue to hurt you. Verbal/emotional abuse is real. 

5) Challenge the thoughts that this emotional hurt has caused. Ex: All ______ people are bad. I am not enough. I will never find love. Everyone who is _______ is like this. 

It’s important we don’t let this emotional hurt taint how we feel about a similar group of people. I personally have some emotional hurts from the Christian church. However that does not mean all Christians are bad or are going to hurt me like that. It can be really easy to project our feelings onto others instead of processing through them.

Emotional hurt comes in all shapes and sizes. It can be attached to very traumatic events or something minor. The deeper the hurt the longer it will take to heal. You may even need a professional to help you through the healing process. There is nothing wrong with this! Healing is an important part of our journey.

Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

5 Signs You Might Want To Break Up With Alcohol

5 Signs You Might Want To Break Up With Alcohol, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

My relationship with alcohol started when I was a teenager. Growing up I didn’t have very many if any examples of healthy relationships with alcohol. It was everywhere I went. In my young, impressionable mind this made it seem like alcohol was necessary. Birth… alcohol. Death… alcohol. Sad… alcohol. Happy… alcohol. The only people I saw break up with alcohol were alcoholics.

Alcohol was my liquid courage. Alcohol was my buffer. I didn’t have to deal with my social anxiety or any other feelings for that matter when I was drunk. People seemed to accept me when I was drinking. I finally fit in! As a nerdy introvert this was life. The unfortunate thing as much as much as alcohol seemed to improve my life it had it’s dark side. My relationship with alcohol would sometimes become dangerous and toxic like a bleeding ulcer and a DWI.

5 signs that you might need to break up with alcohol too

1) On more than one occasion you had to apologize for your behavior while drinking. 

2) You have blacked out while drinking…. multiple times.

3) When you drink you drink to get drunk. You don’t stop at one or two drinks.

4) Drinking has caused problems in your relationships with other people.

5) You drink to relieve stress or to numb out emotions. 

This doesn’t necessarily mean you are an alcoholic. You, like me, may be able to go a long time without drinking and may have not feel the need to consume alcohol during that time. You just might have a toxic relationship with alcohol. That may mean like any toxic relationship you have to create some space between you and the other part of the relationship. Alcohol will never change but your relationship with it might. For now it’s probably time for a break.

Personally I know my relationship with alcohol has prevented me from showing up as my best self personally and professionally. A nagging voice in my head (hello higher self) has been saying I need to call it quits. I haven’t set a limit on this so I don’t know if it will be 6 month, 6 years, or forever. This will help me have time and room to grow and heal. It’s my goal to be the best version of me I can be. If that’s your goal too and you resonated with the signs it might be time to take a break. I’m here to support you.

Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

 

How to Break the Addiction to Our Phones

How to break our addiction to our phones, Megan Hall, Life coach, Motivational Speaker

One of the biggest places I find my clients struggle to create boundaries is around their phones. It’s so funny because 20 years ago having a mobile phone was a luxury not a necessity. Now everyone seems to have one and most people have a smart phone. That means we are always connected but not always connected to other other people.  We have an addiction to our phones.

Our technology can come between us and the people around us. Even though we have even more access to others we feel lonelier than ever.  Why is that? It’s because even though we are “connected” to the internet we are disconnected from human interactions.  When you go out in public you look around and see people looking at their phones instead of connecting with those around them.

How to break our addiction to our phones

1) Utilize the do not disturb mode function when you should be present with what you are doing. 

2) Set a curfew for your phone. At least 30 minutes before bed I shut my phone down. 

3) Create space between you and your phone. Put it in another room, leave it at home or in the car. 

4) Shut off all the unnecessary notifications on your phone. Do you really need to know Aunt Mary commented under that crazy cat video?

5) Don’t check your phone as soon as you get up in the morning. Instead try creating a morning routine. 

Our phones have created a lot of conveniences for us. Everything is at the tip of our fingers. We can get a hold of people at any point in time. Unfortunately that means they can get a hold of us too. It’s important we take the time to create some really solid boundaries around our technology. It might be uncomfortable at first but over time it will become easier and easier.

If you want more support in this area and many other areas of your life I encourage you to join The Inspired Women Membership Community. Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

5 Things Every Parent Needs To Do

5 Things every parent needs to do, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

Let’s be honest parenting is tough. There are so many times I’ve been driving in my car by myself and thought I wonder how far I could get until they realize I’m gone. I know it sounds terrible but whoa it’s a lot of work to be a mom. There is no book that says “This is what every parent needs to do”. That’s because there is no one perfect way to parent but there is a lot of shitty ways to.

I’ve been a mom for over 15 years now. There are so many things I have learned along the way. I also know there are so many more things I need to learn. It is my belief that we are never done learning. Every child, year, and situation will teach us new and fascinating things. My kids are like little experiments… I always wonder what will happen next.

5 things every parent needs to do

1) Listen to your kids. It’s so easy with technology to only half listen or not listen at all but listening is where we pick up on all the things that might be going on. 

2) Teach your kids. Kids learn not by what we say but what we do. If you want kind, empathetic, open minded kids you have to show them that. 

3) Set boundaries with your kids. Just because they are your kids does not mean they own you and your space. 

4) Allow your kids to make up their own mind.  Whether it’s hug Uncle Fred or play the Oboe kids need to learn to trust their own intuition. 

5) Accept your children for who they are. Whether that’s gay, straight, bi, cis gender, trans gender, non gender, gender queer, creative, sporty, nerdy, techy, etc… Just love them for who they are. 

We all are just doing the best we can with what we have available. If you don’t think you are then it’s time to up your game. It’s our jobs as parents to raise our kids to be good human being not little assholes. It’s not our jobs to tell them who they are or need to be. As a kid expectations of me were a tad high and I lost myself trying to meet them. I don’t want that for my kids. I want them to discover their own little personalities and interests.

It’s important that we as parents take the best care of ourselves so we can show up 100% for our kids. It’s also important we teach our kids to care for themselves so when they are older they don’t struggle with self care or boundaries. We are their life teachers and if we want them to be awesome humans we have to be awesome humans. The most personal growth I’ve done has been since becoming a mom. No one expects you to be perfect but do the very best you can.

Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

 

Top 3 Things That Will Help Any Relationship

Top 3 things that will help any relationship, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

Relationships can be tough. We are interacting with other imperfect humans who have their own thoughts, feelings, opinions and perceptions. So often the things that will help any relationship are the most are overlooked. We focus on trying to change the person instead of controlling our words and actions.

None of the things I am going to mention in this article are about changing the other person because that is something we cannot do. People have to decide to change on their own. It is however important we treat the people in our lives with respect, empathy, and kindness. Sometimes they are going through something we cannot understand.

Top 3 things that will help any relationship

1) Open and Honest Communication. 

  • Do this when you have calmed down.
  • Express how you are feeling without bashing the other person. I feel _______ because of ______.
  • Be willing to listen openly to what they have to say.

2) Giving as much, if not more, than you take. 

  • It’s not always 50/50 but you should not always be taking more than you give. 

3) Set and Respect Boundaries. 

  • Boundaries involve protecting our physical, mental, and emotional space/energy.
  • Just because someone is a part of your life does not mean they should be able to do what they want with you. Vice Versa is also true. 

Relationships are a two way street. We cannot expect others to do what we are unwilling to do ourselves. You will notice all the things I mentioned involve not just one person doing but both. If you are the only person putting forth an effort consistently it might be time to reevaluate your relationship. Sometimes it’s just a time in your life that this relationship is not serving you the way you need it to.

Relationships are messy. It can be painful when they end. Sometimes that ending is necessary. Other times all it would take is a little effort in the areas mentioned above to help get the relationship back on track. It’s up to you to determine if it’s worth the time and effort.  Just remember you can’t control other people.

If you need more guidance on the topic of relationships check out these articles or The Inspired Women Podcast5 things that could be tearing your relationship apart5 ways to cultivate positive relationships, & What relationships are not. Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

The Perks of Friendship

The perks of friendship, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational speaker

I always say our significant others cannot be all the things to us. That’s a lot of pressure to put on one person. One of the perks of friendship is they don’t have to be. By having several close friends our friends can fulfill some of the emotional support we might need. Although don’t throw your spouse out the door they still have a place.

Quality friendships are imperative to our ability to be our best selves. I know it can be really scary to build and grow friendships. It opens us up to hurt but it also opens us up to love. Some friendships won’t work out. That’s ok because each one will teach us more about ourselves and other people. That’s one of the perks I am talking about.

The perks of friendship:

1) Someone to support you when shit hits the fan

2) Reduction in stress

3) Improved self worth & self confidence

4) Help extend your life. More Here

5) Decreased sense of isolation or lonliness

By building quality friendships we are setting ourselves up for success. Even if life seems to be going great right now without those friendships think about what will happen if adversity strikes. No one wants to think about losing a spouse or family member but who will be there if we do? Our friends will be there

There are many perks of friendship ranging from health to happiness and only a few are listed here. Friendship is so important that I’ve wrote several articles about it: Friendship is like datingWomen need healthy friendships, & 5 ways to cultivate positive relationships. The loneliest and hardest times of my life were when I lacked quality friendships. I deserve quality friendships and you do  too!

Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

How to Handle Big, Scary, Audacious Goals

Big, Scary, Audacious Goals, Megan Hall. Life Coach , Motivational Speaker

I always encourage my clients to set big, scary, audacious goals because those goals can provide a road map for us and fuel for our fire. There are a few drawbacks to these goals though. One of the biggest mistakes I see women make is trying to implement everything all at once. Another one I see women make is not breaking those goals into manageable steps. It can be quite overwhelming when you look at everything you have to do for these goals.

Big, scary, audacious goals are not concrete. They may change over time. Four years ago I wanted to be a PiYo instructor. I discovered along the way that I am not very coordinated and could not keep up with the beat. If I had held fast to that goal and kept trying I would have wasted time and energy that could be spent elsewhere trying to do something that didn’t fit me. Think about your goals as a way to check to see if you are on the right path and to guide you in deciding what steps you should be taking.

How to handle big, scary, audacious goals:

1) Only set a handful of these goals. The more goals you set the less focus you have. 

2) Break these goals down into manageable pieces. What do you have to do daily, weekly, monthly, etc… to reach these goals?

3) Implement one thing at a time. I share more about this in episode 112 of The Inspired Women Podcast

4) Check in with yourself regularly. Are you still on the right path to achieving your goals?

5) If a goal no longer resonates with you feel free to change it. 

If you start to feel stressed out, overwhelmed, or burnout around a goal that’s a sign that things aren’t going right. Perhaps you have implemented too many things. Or perhaps you have too many goals. Maybe you have not broken your goals down into manageable pieces. Whatever it might be it’s time to reevaluate what is going on.

Allow yourself the opportunity to celebrate wins regularly by creating smaller goals. If your goal is to make $100,000 a year in your business don’t focus on that big number instead focus on how much you want to make this week and how to make that happen. Your weekly goals might seem like a drop in the bucket but over time those drops add up. Then before you know it your bucket will be filled.

If you need more guidance on goals check out these articles: I’ve Set My Goals Now What & Didn’t Reach Your Goals. Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

How to Deal With Mean Girls

How to deal with mean girls, Megan Hall, Life coach, motivational speaker

This week’s Fri-YAY episode of The Inspired Women Podcast I chat about mean girls. When I was younger I thought when I became an adult I wouldn’t have to deal with mean girls anymore. I was wrong because mean girls become mean women. Mean women have access to many more ways of being mean.

When we were kids mean girls might push us, call us names, say mean things, or exclude us. Mean women do all of those things and even more. Mean women have can black mail or black ball you. They can do things that can permanently effect your position in a certain group or company. Mean women can be ruthless.

How to deal with mean girls aka mean women

1) Start with it’s not you it’s them. You are enough just as you are. 

2) Stop trying to “fit in” with them. This is just adding fuel to the fire they can smell in-authenticity. 

3) Distance yourself from them. The more you allow yourself to be around them the more it will hurt. 

4) Stand up for yourself and what you believe in. When they come at you don’t attack them instead stand your ground. 

5) Surround yourself with women who support you and make you feel good about yourself. 

We just want to be accepted right? Especially if we spent most of our lives trying to fit in but never really feeling like we belong. Often times mean girls are part of a clique and we want to belong to something like that. If someone is being mean to you, making your feel like you don’t belong, or tearing other women down you have to ask yourself if you really want to be a part of that. Don’t stoop to their level.

So many times in my life I tried desperately to fit in. Every time I walked away feeling rejected and empty inside usually after being the victim of some mean girls. As women mean girls have developed a subtler ways of being mean. It’s not always blatant. It wasn’t until I really took the time to discover who I was, what I stood for, and how I wanted to feel that I realized these kinds of people just weren’t worth my time. Instead I took time to find those women who were worth it. They often have been the victims of mean girls too.

If you want help discovering who you are check out this article I once was lost & Finding the right community for you. Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

Personal Development: Where to Start

personal development, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

What is personal development? It is developing you as a person. It’s all about learning, growth, and improvement. No one knows everything , has done everything and is everything. We as humans are imperfect but that only means we have room to improve. That’s where personal development comes in.

When you start delving into the realms of personal development it can get overwhelming. There is so much information out there and so many places to find it. Some is free and some costs hundreds of thousands of dollars. It’s difficult to ascertain what’s worth it and what’s not.

Deciding where to start with personal development

1) Identify an area you want to improve and/or learn more about

2) Decide what you want to get from learning about this area

3) Find free or low cost ways to “dip your toe in” like podcasts or books

4) If you are still interested in this area then ask for recommendations on courses, coaches, conferences, etc… that you can learn more from

5) Implement what you’ve learned and discover another area of interest

If we aren’t growing we are dying. Studies have proven when people no longer have something to work towards they die sooner. That’s why we should always have something we are working towards. It doesn’t have to big or complicated. The more we know the better we do.

Set aside time every day to work on your personal development. This could be listening to podcasts while driving or reading a book before bed. It doesn’t have to be time consuming but as a little as 15 minutes a day can add up over time. If you want more guidance check out these resources: Podcast Episode & Blog post.  Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTH & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall